Approach
ADDICTION
For the person with addictive behaviours we will work together to identify your unique triggers and develop a practical toolkit for high-risk situations. I use psycho-education, and poly-vagal theory to help you understand the neurological process that happen in an addicted brain as I teach you ways to rewire the parts of the brain that are hijacked by this addictive cycle and dopamine disfunction. I use psychodynamic therapy to learn self compassion as we explore past experiences that may have been the formative reason for the misuse of substances or the addictive behaviours. I draw on attachment theory and Pia Melody’s Facing Codependency, as we explore common relationship and attachment styles such as avoidant and anxious as we learn ways to become more securely attached.
I also provide any necessary referrals if your needs are outside my scope and support you in finding connection and support from programs such as 12 steps, process groups and/ or SMART recovery groups.
BETRAYAL TRAUMA
For the person experiencing betrayal trauma we establish safety and stabilisation before any deep processing can occur. I use psycho-education to normalise your experience through teaching you the biology behind betrayal and trauma which helps you understand why you may be experiencing rage, hyper vigilance, sleep disturbances and more.
I begin the groundwork for a Formal Disclosure Process that avoids more, traumatising, staggered discoveries.
We then do boundary work and establish ways to keep safe and what next steps you want to take in relation to navigating the type of contact and relationship you want to work towards with the person who betrayed you (if any).
I can then refer you to; specialist support groups for other betrayed partners, people who are qualified to support you through a Full Therapeutic Disclosure, specialist CSAT partner support, community supports if you are facing family violence or financial hardship.